Thought of the day: Long term travel with your partner

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I’ve touched on this topic before, but as Bretto & I near the end of our 18-month “Big Trip”, I feel the need to reflect on what we’ve learnt and how we’ve grown, and changed, from long term travel together.

Long term travel can either solidify or disintegrate the bond in your relationship. Actually, there is an option 3 worth adding; where you embark on long-term travel together and think “this is gonna be AWESOME!” yet it proves more challenging than either of you expected, and you return home with the attitude of “Well, that was an experience. I’m glad we did it, but I sure as hell don’t want to do that again in a hurry”. And that’s ok too – the experience will still see you grow as a couple, hopefully without costing you your relationship. I’ll never forget the first day of our Spanish lessons, before Brett & I took our first Big Trip to South America together – upon telling our spanish teacher that we were a couple, together for 2 years, she tutt-tutted skeptically and told us a tale of some previous students of hers, a freshly-engaged loved-up couple who went to South America before their wedding and it ended horribly – she ended up falling in love with a Brazilian man and left her poor lover behind. I know she meant well, sharing this story – but it kind of gave me a scare.

My first thoughts on this topic would be about how much we’ve learnt about each other, and how much tolerance and compromise you need to have to survive living on top of each other, spending every minute together, going through bad moods and illness and rarely being apart…I’m sure some people assume a holiday alone together is all rainbows and butterflies and 24 hour romance but it’s really not. Sure we have periods, months on end sometimes, where we’re totally blissed out in love, like our first few months in Chiang-Mai – where we had all these awesome new friends whom we WANTED to spend time with, but so often we were just so happy hanging out in our little home together spending time with each other – we didn’t want the bubble to burst.

But then there were other times, when every word the other person spoke seemed like the stupidest, most annoying comment to make, and we couldn’t wait to put some distance between us. But after so long being together, we understand that we feel that way not because of the other person’s actions, but because I (or he) was in a bad mood and we were reacting in a negative way. You learn about each others faults and flaws very quickly, and there’s no pretending to be someone you’re not – If you’re a total grub of a person posing as a clean freak to impress your clean freak partner, the jig is up when you travel alone together. Nobody can fake it that long.

And there’s times where we feel like we’ve discussed every single moment in both of our lives to death, and there’s nothing new to talk about and I think “Geez what’s it gonna be like when we’re 80?!”… Then 5 minutes later we’re both talking so much we’re talking over each other. We have endless “private jokes”, silly little sayings, songs we sing when we’re alone and enough funny memories to last a lifetime. We’ve even got our own secret language: a jumbled mix of Thai, Spanish, Hindi and a little Vietnamese that we’ve learn in our travels. I’m sure we make no sense when around other people sometimes.

We’ve been doing a lot of reflecting the past couple of weeks, knowing this trip is almost at the end… Reflecting on what we’ve done, and what we’ve learnt about each other. We’re very lucky to still be so in love, sick in love sometimes, even after spending so much time with just each other. Travel has most definitely solidified our relationship, and we’re lucky that after almost 6 years we’re still happy and heading in the same direction – it breaks my heart to see people who care for each other but realize they are heading in different directions and want different things.

And no, there’s no ring or babies coming (sorry Mum). As much as we love each other and want to be together forever and all that jazz, I don’t see the need for us to go down that path. Sure it’d be nice to score a big rock and have people finally stop asking when it’s gonna happen, but they aren’t good enough reasons for us to justify doing it. I feel like getting married for the wrong reasons is worse than never doing it at all. I’m of the opinion that “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” and my relationship is just fine. As for babies… I just want to play with everyone else’s, I’m in no hurry for my own. Don’t let the Kindergarten teacher in me fool anyone, I love to play and hand them back – haha. If I ever go down that road it’ll be when I’m ready to commit my life completely to that kid… And right now that’s not where I’m at.

So this went from tips on traveling together to an update on my relationship, but hey. There’s just 6 days left and I’m feeling thoughtful and thankful for this kid and the impact he’s had on my life, and how awesome traveling together has been for us. I can’t wait for the new chapter of our lives, wherever we end up!

- Belle

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Thailand in my rear view

The Best of the Best – my Thailand favourites!

Ok guys so I’ve done one of these for all the countries previous, so I feel obligated to do Thailand as well. Here goes:

If I had to choose what in my opinion constitutes Thailand’s “Top 3″ obsessions – They would be celebrating; eating rice and/or noodles; and the “Wai”. The first one is pretty obvious, celebrating; Thai people love to celebrate. Whether its with a huge waterfight for Thai New Year, or other popular Buddhist celebrations – or even holidays they don’t recognize or really understand, like Christmas or Halloween – these guys just love an excuse to chuck a party. And why not? They don’t let anything get them down for too long, it’s against their religion – and they love to have fun.

Eating rice and noodles – infact, I wanted to just make this eating ANYTHING because they eat all day. Small meals, sure… But they seem to put away a lot of food (fried foods especially) without ever getting fat. Lucky genes I suppose.

The last is the Wai, a very important custom in Thai culture. It’s all about hierarchy in Thailand – whoever is deemed the Poo Yai (eldest and/or most senior figure in the group/family) must be respected, obeyed, and provide for the younger ones. More on the Poo Yai explanation here: http://sticky-rice.com/poo_yai.html

In regards to wai’s, you should always respect the order and follow protocol – the younger person always wai’s first; but not too early, as the older person must be able to Wai back within a certain time. If you’re meeting someone for the first time, they appreciate your respectful gesture if you Wai. Didn’t get a Wai? Maybe that’s a sign too. It’s all very calculated and specific, and I find it really interesting.

Belle’s favourites list

Favourite town: Pai, Northern Thailand
Favourite city: Chiang-Mai, of course!
Favourite beach: Chaloklum beach, Koh Phangan
Favourite memory: Songkran Festival 2013
Favourite quote: Mai Bpen Rai – it means “Don’t worry about it” or words to that effect. I also love “Gin Kwai Dai” which means “I could eat a buffalo” – the Thai version of “I’m so hungry I could eat a horse”. Haha – I love it.
Favourite experience: Yeeping Festival for Loi Krattong, in October 2012. Tens of thousands of large paper lanterns simultaneously released in a giant field after hours of Buddist rituals… It was magical. Unforgettable.
Biggest surprise: believe it or not, driving a scooter in the big cities is not as hard as it seems! And I’m glad I got some more confidence on a bike.
Biggest letdown: If I had to choose one, it would be that beef salads aren’t as popular or as prevalent as I’d hoped! Back home, I always ordered (or made at home) what’s often called a Thai beef salad, and dreamt of coming to Thailand to try the real thing. I think I maybe found 2 the whole time I was there. The locals live on noodles, and the salads are mostly pork or chicken (that I could find anyway). Not really a big letdown, but I don’t really have a lot of complaints about this country!

I think you all can tell I am head over heels in love with this country. I know my complaining about having to leave makes my Mum feel guilty for dragging me away, but I’d be lying if I said it was no big deal. I’d previously visited Thailand in 2009 with Brett (his maiden voyage out of Australia) and thought it was great, but I was seeing Thailand through the eyes of a tourist who doesn’t understand the culture and the people. I am much more aware of how this country works now, thanks to the local people who have taken the time to explain it. I’m no expert, but I know the value of a wai (Thai wave) to an elder person and I understand the thought process behind so many of their actions much more now, which makes my whole experience living here so much more enjoyable. They do things different, sure… But they have their reasons. Sometimes it makes more sense than our way, we are just too stubborn to realise it.

- Belle

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Songkran festivities and the final goodbye to Thailand

This blog post has been difficult for me to both start – and finish – writing. It’s been difficult to start because it’s taken this long to finally come to terms with the reality that yes, we’ve finally left Thailand – but hey, you know what? Vietnam ain’t so bad either. There was a foggy week in between leaving Thailand and learning to love Vietnam where I drank too much and tried to stop sulking about having to leave the country I came to love so much. But it’s also been difficult to finish because I wanted to find the right words to accurately convey the atmosphere & vibe of the people (and us) during Songkran. These Thais really get into the spirit of things for Songkran, and it was a really awesome way to celebrate our final week here. Oh, and I have been kind of heartbroken about leaving our awesome friends in Chiang-Mai so that’s been tough too.

Oh, enough whinging.

The truth is I have had an awesome few days here in Vietnam on the back of a motorbike this week and I want to share it with you all, but I have to write the last blog post about Thailand before I can move onto Vietnam. So here goes.

After our 15 days in Burma, we headed 2-hours south from Bangkok to the tourist-soaked city of Pattaya for a weekend of fun. But the Thailand we had missed so greatly was not in Pattaya – I’m sorry, but anyone who has ever been to Pattaya and nowhere else has not seen the real Thailand. I’m well aware that Pattaya is known for it’s high number of sex workers, but I was still amazed at how many Western (and Indian, oddly enough) white men there were roaming around, walking along the beach foreshore with their shirts off, bellies protruding, looking like king of the world. Which of course they probably think they are, and who am I to tell them otherwise. It’s a man’s world in Pattaya, and every pretty girl you see can be yours for a price. Still, it was a very beautiful town and we had a fun weekend.

So we returned to Chiang-Mai and begrudgingly started planning for our departure in 2 weeks time. We sold our scooter for the same amount we bought it for 9 months earlier (to an older Australian couple who’d just finished the exact same TEFL Course as us, oddly enough), I finished off my last week of Muay Thai boxing and even managed to sell my gym membership off for a very good price. Finally we packed up our 48 kilograms of stuff (Seriously, who knew we had that much junk?!) and sent it off by seamail. By Friday of our last weekend in Thailand, we’d gotten our full bond back for our condo and our house was packed up. All the jobs were done, and it was time to “Play Songkran”, as the locals called it.

I bought myself a big ass water gun for about $10, and decided to get revenge on the cheeky Thai’s who’d been drenching me all day. Songkran didn’t officially start until Saturday, but that didn’t stop these guys getting into the spirit of things early so I did as the locals did – took my water gun to the street outside a friends’ place, parked ourselves outside a little local store with cold beers and played Songkran with some friendly locals across the road. The eldest girl looked about my age with some party tunes blaring, and being that it was the Friday afternoon of the longest holiday on the Thai calendar, everyone was in a happy, playful Friday mood. As drivers cruised along our strip of street we blockaded the road and smiled sweetly at them, wished them a happy Songkran and dumped a bucket of water over them. Some people tried to resist, or argue why they can’t/don’t want to be wet, but it fell on deaf ears – everyone got drenched. My new friends thought I was one crazy farang, but they loved having me and my equally crazy farang friends join in the party with them (infact, they repeatedly called me into their home to force feed me Thai food with proud grins. Bless them).

Having a huge waterfight in the street all afternoon is all well and good, but we’d planned our own farewell party at our favourite steak restaurant so we soon had to head home to get cleaned up. Some friends from my hometown just happened to be visiting Chiang-Mai for the weekend, and although they were unaware that it was Songkran weekend they were keen to get involved. We headed out for a few drinks that night with our TEFL course buddies, then got up early (and slightly hungover) to head to the tourist hotspot Tha Phae Gate for the big Songkran party happening down there. Unfortunately we’d all underestimated how CRAZY INTENSE the streets of Chiang-Mai would be on this day – Thousands of people flooded the street; soaking cars, scooters and pick-up trucks loaded with partying Songkran’ers and traffic was almost at a complete standstill. We waited at the chosen meeting point for our friends from back home for 2 hours, before finally giving up and heading off to join the festivities ourselves (and later made numerous attempts to meet with our poor friends, who spent the whole day hopelessly lost outside the city and struggled with the crazy driving conditions on unfamiliar roads. It was not a happy Songkran for them!).

So we headed to a local bar where our buddies were already well into the swing of things, and we joined in a 4 hour waterfight war on the streets of Chiang-Mai, against anyone and everyone. It was such a happy, festive day – the tunes were great, everyone was in high spirits and everyone from toddlers to grandparents gleefully dumped ice cold buckets of water, or fired shots from a huge water cannon, or simply waved the hose onto the street: whatever means necessary, everyone soaked everyone. It was great.

The partying continued well into the night, and the following day as well… By Sunday afternoon I’d almost had enough of playing Songkran and being drenched everytime I left the house but you had to be a good sport about it – any resistance just brings more water your way. It made driving around to run errands on our last weekend quite difficult – no way was I risking driving the scooter on wet roads, in horrendous traffic, with bucketfuls of water being dumped on us from every direction. We saw one terrible accident, where a woman lost control after being drenched whilst speeding down a wet road and she didn’t get up again very quickly. It can be quite horrific, but luckily we stayed off the roads and stayed safe (So don’t worry, Mum & April!).

By Monday things were slowly starting to return to normal, but it was still very busy and people were still having waterfights everywhere. I had been invited to the parent’s house of one of my half Thai-half Australian Kindy students for an “Aussie barbeque” that afternoon, and before I’d even made it to the meeting point right next door to my condo where I was being collected (cos I sure wasn’t driving), I’d been drenched from head to toe and had to turn around to get changed again. It took us more than 45 minutes just to get to the end of my street, the traffic was that heavy – and Songkran was supposed to be over! The Thai’s didn’t care, this is their one weekend to go crazy and they loved it. I finally made it to Charlie’s parents beautiful big house, expecting a low-key play date with one of my favourite students… But I should have known better. All of my favourite students and their wonderful parents were there, and not only were there “shrimps on the Barbie” (and ALOT of them), they’d also gone to the trouble of getting imported beef, sausages, Australian wine, cheese platters and all the trimmings. I had a great day playing with all the kids and drinking too much wine (Teacher Belle is now officially off duty) and had to put on a brave face to not cry saying goodbye to my little angels. I never wanted them to leave.

Soon it was our last day in Chiang Mai, and I just felt so sad all day; as dramatic as it sounds it was the same feeling as when you’re due to attend the funeral of someone you love. I was heartbroken, and Brett was too. Luckily we still had another month of travel in Vietnam ahead, because going straight home to Australia from Thailand would have been ten times worse.

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Before we boarded the bus to Bangkok, there was a few people we’d become close with that I wanted to say goodbye to. First there was my Thai Dad: old Mr Krupong, my Muay Thai boxing instructor. I’d finally told him 2 weeks earlier that I was going back to Australia, and therefore wouldn’t be fighting for him… He was momentarily disappointed, before getting excited and saying repeatedly “You go Australia, make baby now. Beautiful baby. Yes, Yes!” (as he rubs my belly) I tried to explain that I don’t want to “make baby” but he wasn’t hearing it. He’s a funny old man – we’d fallen into quite a comfortable routine together during my time regularly training with him, and Brett teases me often because I started – and still do – speak like him, and say little remarks like he does. When I went by the gym to say goodbye he was acting upset and fatherly, wishing me luck and demanding I call him as soon as I’m back – and still insisting I “make the babies, you very good girl. You make babies, make happy”. As I said goodbye he stood in the doorway and watched me off, then one last time called my name as only he does: “BELL!” I looked up and he gave me a sad nod and wave, and turned and went inside. Oh Mr Krupong, funny old man. I was sad to say goodbye to him.

But the worst was yet to come, two beautiful South African girls that both Brett & I have come to adore. Ours was one of those rare friendships that developed quickly and deeply, and after our first few meetings we were all calling each other frequently to catch up and trying to ignore the ticking clock on our time together. They came over to spend our last day with us, and we had one last catchup on the rooftop of our building and then they left shortly before our bus (and before we all got too emotional).

Saying goodbye to people and places you fall in love with is never easy, but I will never be one of those people who hate the goodbye more than I cherish the memories made. I know we’ll see our friends again, and return to Chiang Mai again, so it’s not the end – just time for the next chapter.

So we packed up, got on the bus to Bangkok and spent our last 24 hours in Thailand eating all our favourite foods to excess, and trying not to think of how hard it is leaving somewhere before you’re ready to go. But duty calls back home, so… Onwards to Vietnam, for one last hurrah before we are due back in Aus.

Thailand, Laow jer gun Ka (See you again).

- Belle

The food of Burma (Myanmar)

OK, I’ve promised this one and now it’s time to deliver.

I was asked by some of you faithful followers to take lots of snaps of the food in Burma, so without further ado… Here are some of my favourite cheap street eats throughout the wonderful country that is Burma (Myanmar).

YANGON STREET EATS

Fried tofu stuffed with shredded cabbage and chilli sauce. Found on the streets of Yangon for 20c, loved it, and never saw it again. if you see it, get it!

Fried tofu stuffed with shredded cabbage and chilli sauce. Found on the streets of Yangon for 20c, loved it, and never saw it again. if you see it, get it!

Yangon's famous BBQ Street whole grilled fish, stuffed with herbs and oh my god amazing. DON'T MISS IT

Yangon’s famous BBQ Street whole grilled fish, stuffed with herbs and oh my god amazing. DON’T MISS IT

Yangon bbq street - Grilled tofu and okra skewers. Tastes great with Myanmar beer

Yangon bbq street – Grilled tofu and okra skewers. Tastes great with Myanmar beer

BURMESE SALADS – MY TOP 5

I did post a previous post all about the Burmese salads, but since salads are a huge part of Burmese food it’s worth adding the favourites here. So in order of deliciousness:

The all-time favourite: Fermented tea leaf salad

The all-time favourite: Fermented tea leaf salad

Number 2: Tomato salad. Tomatoes, onion, parsley, crushed peanuts and whatever else that particular vendor wants to add. Always a winner!

Number 2: Tomato salad. Tomatoes, onion, parsley, crushed peanuts and whatever else that particular vendor wants to add. Always a winner!

Number 3: chopped samosa salad

Number 3: chopped samosa salad

Number 4: Shan noodle "salad" (Burmese people call everything a "salad", really this is a noodle dish but they call it a salad, so I'll call it a salad)

Number 4: Shan noodle “salad” (Burmese people call everything a “salad”, really this is a noodle dish but they call it a salad, so I’ll call it a salad)

Last but certainly not least: Burmese potato salad. Much like the traditional salad but the addition off crushed peanuts really just blows it out of the water!

Last but certainly not least: Burmese potato salad. Much like the traditional salad but the addition off crushed peanuts really just blows it out of the water!

TEA TIME: TEA-SHOP SNACKS
Teashops are an institution in Burma, and each day revolves around hours spent in these great little shops. Awesome people watching here too.

Standard Burmese milk tea - too much condensed milk, but tastes amazing. They usually are served already mixed, but this little lady had her own secret method

Standard Burmese milk tea – too much condensed milk, but tastes amazing. They usually are served already mixed, but this little lady had her own secret method

Milk tea from our favourite tea shop in Bagan, with the AMAZING mooncake. Donut stuffed with shredded coconut & sugar. We ate many of these for 3 days straight, and never found any that measured up in the rest of Burma. so good.

Milk tea from our favourite tea shop in Bagan, with the AMAZING mooncake. Donut stuffed with shredded coconut & sugar. We ate many of these for 3 days straight, and never found any that measured up in the rest of Burma. so good.

Burma's favourite breakfast: Mohinga noodle soup and tea

Burma’s favourite breakfast: Mohinga noodle soup and tea

Banana chapattis. Yes, just yes yes yes. These ended every nights feast daily for 3 days straight in Inle Lake

Banana chapattis. Yes, just yes yes yes. These ended every nights feast daily for 3 days straight in Inle Lake

Teashop standard snacks - samosas. The more, the better.

Teashop standard snacks – samosas. The more, the better.

Indian flat bread and beans

Indian flat bread and beans

These sweet fried bread sticks were so bad for you, but taste amazing. Served at tea shops country-wide... dip them in your tea!

These sweet fried bread sticks were so bad for you, but taste amazing. Served at tea shops country-wide… dip them in your tea!

Falooda, for when you feel like dessert & a drink in one!

Falooda, for when you feel like dessert & a drink in one!

Domino - icecream, cashews, jelly cubes, banana and whatever else they can fit in the glass. Be warned: it's super sweet!

Domino – icecream, cashews, jelly cubes, banana and whatever else they can fit in the glass. Be warned: it’s super sweet!

BURMESE BUFFET – ALL YOU CAN EAT

A mountain of Burmese faves - Don't judge me for the piled plate, it was our last night in Burma!

A mountain of Burmese faves – Don’t judge me for the piled plate, it was our last night in Burma!

Burmese traditional all-you-can-eat: Washed down with an ice cold Myanmar beer.

Burmese traditional all-you-can-eat: Washed down with an ice cold Myanmar beer.

Indian food is very popular in Burma, so it's only fitting we had a big ol' Indian feast!

Indian food is very popular in Burma, so it’s only fitting we had a big ol’ Indian feast!


STILL HUNGRY…? STREET SNACKS!

Bread sweets, donuts and peanut pie... all good!

Bread sweets, donuts and peanut pie… all good!

Bacon crepe wraps

Bacon crepe wraps

Yangon street sweets - 10c each!

Yangon street sweets – 10c each!

The final days in Thailand

Wow, I can’t believe it’s finally time to leave Thailand. We’re sitting out in the garden at our guesthouse in Bangkok after an overnight bus from Chiang-Mai, waiting to check into our room… We’re dirty and tired but nothing a street vendor selling Thai food at 7am couldn’t fix (and the guesthouse free wifi is certainly helping to pass the time).

I’m overdue for blog posts again – I need to post a huge post about all the food we ate in Burma, and also fill you in on our last couple of weeks in Chiang-Mai, and the mayhem that was Songkran festival last week – but to be honest I’m feeling kind of heartbroken about leaving this amazing country and inspired travel writing is just not on the cards today.

Tomorrow we fly to Hanoi, the capital city of Vietnam, where we meet two of our fellow Chiang-Mai teacher friends for some R&R for a week (at which time they head home to get back to work) and Brett & I will roam around Vietnam for just over a month before flying from Ho Chi Minh City to Melbourne, Australia, on May 22, 2013.

“The Gypsy Tour”, as my sister calls it, is finally coming to an end.

So right now I’m going to bury my feelings in platefuls of all my favorite Thai food, and hopefully make myself so sick on it that I don’t want to look at another som tam or sticky rice ever again. Doubtful, but it’s worth a shot.
I’ll catch up soon when I finally rip off the band-aid and just get it over with (leaving Thailand, that is) and feel a little more inspired to write… Right now I just want to speak Thai to strangers, blow all my baht on too much fried food and contemplate buying an iPhone (excessive retail therapy, see it’s just like a broken heart).

Goodbye Thailand :( I’m not ready to say goodbye, not even close… But we’ll be back for you someday.

- Belle

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Burma (Myanmar) – Photography by Brett

The Myanmar people are probably the kindest, most genuine and friendly people of any country I’ve ever visited. Big call I know, especially as I’ve previously raved about how wonderful Indian people are (which I still stand by); but the people of Burma – or Myanmar, as it was renamed in 1989 – are such a happy and sincere bunch, especially when you take into consideration how difficult life has been in Burma in recent decades.

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In a (very brief) nutshell, my understanding of Burma’s difficult past can be summarized as follows: In the 1800′s, the country was invaded by the British and eventually stripped of all it’s natural resources and exports, until one brave General in the Burmese Army stood up for his country and helped regain independence from the British (only to be assassinated for his efforts soon after); so while the local people assumed life would improve under Burmese military rule, it actually worsened horribly and they were forced to “put up and shut up” with how their own government robbed, jailed and killed them – until the brave General’s daughter, Aung San Suu Kyi, stood in her father’s shoes and has spent her entire life fighting for her country (of which she has spent almost 20 years under house-arrest for daring to oppose the government). The Burmese military government have run their country into the ground, and refuse to allow the outside world to know the truth about how they are running the country. The people are lied to, and killed for even speaking badly about the government, let alone daring to do something about it.

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But despite all these hardships, the local people are still smiling – and singing, always singing. And not that quiet, under your breath when nobody is nearby singing, I’m talking full heart-and-soul effort into each word of their chosen love song, all the time, and it never fails to bring a smile to my face when I hear it. On our very first afternoon in Burma, we checked into our Yangon guesthouse, the Motherland Inn, and asked for directions to a nearby teashop to get our first authentic Burmese tea leaf salad. Better than directions, the receptionist recruited our own guide, a cheerful teenage boy who happily led us down the street to the teashop, all the while singing passionately (he switched to Justin Bieber’s “Baby” halfway there, I assume that was supposed to be for our benefit), and after our lunch he then led us to the bus stop, told the bus conductor where we wanted to go and waved us goodbye from the street. 45 minutes later as we approached our bus stop, we tried to pay for our fare like everyone else had done and our money was refused – I was bewildered. As any Westerner who’s ever been to an Asian country knows, you expect to be treated like a walking cash-machine when you’re a tourist (and when you recognize that we make so much more money than they do and it means less to us than it does them, you accept this) so when this smiling young man refusing our bus fare and simply said, “Welcome to Myanmar”, it just blew me away.

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We arrived at the amazing Shwedagon Pagoda in time for sunset, and I visited each shrine and said a prayer to the big man, Buddha, thanking him for allowing me to visit his country and meet these amazing people. I also said a prayer for my favourite Burmese troublemaker friend back home, and wished for the health and wellbeing of him and his family; a ritual I kept up for my entire Myanmar visit.

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After a few days in Yangon we did something we NEVER do – chose an expensive plane journey over the cheap bus trip to head to Bagan. With only 15 days in this country and so much to see, we couldn’t waste a whole day on a bus – and it was quite an experience flying with the small local airline. We arrived in Bagan an hour later at 8am, and immediately set out for a day of exploring some of the 4000 temples in Bagan with our very own horse & cart, led by our friendly and knowledgable local guide.

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The next few days in Bagan involved many dusty hours exploring temples on bicycles, and tasting with great enthusiasm all the local cuisine on offer. Brett & I have been very healthy over the past few months in Thailand, clean eating and all that garbage… But that’s all out the window as soon as we hit a new country and there’s new food to discover. We’ve been on an eating rampage; each day starts and finishes and is planned around what we’re going to eat, and where. Donuts, fried snacks, sweet milky teas and coffees are just the tip of the iceberg… I’m bound to regret going this crazy when I get home and have gained 3 kilos but right now I’m loving it (Update: Didn’t gain a single extra pound thankfully…).

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From Bagan we took a bus to Kalaw, a small town in the north-eastern Shan state of Myanmar which attracts travelers purely because it is the jump-off point for treks to the very popular Inle Lake. We booked ourselves on a 2-day trek from Kalaw to Inle Lake for the very next morning, led by a local guide named Paul and accompanied by an older Irish couple and a British lass and her Thai boyfriend – these two run a guesthouse in Bangkok and we hit it off instantly.

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The trek took us through dry rice and vegetable plantations and dusty villages, and we were sweaty and filthy from all the dust by the end of each day. But it was still better than attempting the trek in the cooler climate, or during the wet season – travelling in the low season means we barely caught glimpses of other tourists on the trail, which is usually PACKED with package tourists in high season. And wet season means you trek in the rain, and have to deal with leeches in inconvenient places, all day long. As our guide Paul said: “No happy tourists in rainy season”, he laughs. “They don’t like leeches between their toes.”

Sweaty and dusty on the hike (those shoes WERE black)

Sweaty and dusty on the hike (those shoes WERE black)

Overnight we camped at a Buddhist monastery in a small remote village, where the weather was cold and the food cooked by our young but extremely talented cook was out of this world. Endless bowls of delicious Burmese foods kept appearing on our table: pumpkin curry, chicken and vegetable stir-fry, tomato salad, choko curry, potato curry, fried rice, papadums, stir fried vegetables and of course, for any fussy foreigners: French fries. I wish I had photos of this feast, but after a long day’s trek and a table of hungry hikers drooling over the spread, pausing for photos wasn’t an option. Sorry guys – the good news is I’ve taken a million photos of the rest of the food from this trip so I’ll make it up to you with that drool-worthy blog post later this week.

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We woke up at 5am for a pancake breakfast and hit the road early. By 1pm we arrived at the meeting point for the end of the hike: a restaurant near the longboat pier where we’d travel to our accommodation at Inle Lake. We all collapsed in an exhausted, dirty, yet satisfied heap just in time for lunch. While waiting for the bus, I did a double-take when I saw this leopard-dog… It had all the mannerisms of a ‘too cool for mere mortals’ attitude of a cat – no wonder it’s owner gave it a paint job.

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We arrived at Inle Lake, where we spent the next 3 nights at Mingilar Inn – I highly recommend this family-run guesthouse for anyone coming to the area.

Sunrise at Inle Lake

Sunrise at Inle Lake

We spent days circumnavigating the lake on bicycles, taking day long boat trips with our own guide, and even treated ourselves to a wine-tasting at a fancy vineyard restaurant, with amazing views of the city at sunset… For a mere $2.

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Soon we were in Mandalay, the point of departure for our flight back to Bangkok – but we had a few days up our sleeve so we checked out nearby Pyin oo Lwin for a couple of nights, a leafy green town in the hills with a much cooler climate than stinking hot Mandalay. We wandered through the botanical gardens, posing for photos with giggling school girls (I think they just wanted to get a closer look at big handsome Brett) and getting mobbed by friendly locals. The following day we took a 4-hour train ride to nowhere, purely to cross a popular bridge in the area, which at the time of construction was the second highest bridge in the world – Burma’s claim to fame.

We hopped off the train at the very next station and began trying to find our way back to Pyin oo Lwin – we hopped on the back of a motorbike with some locals and got dropped at the highway where the bus passes, and while we waited we were befriended by a local at a roof construction business who invited us in, kept an eye out for the bus and generously fed us homemade cake and coffee. Unfortunately he was too busy chatting with us to effectively watch out for passing buses, so after we missed 2 buses in a row he called a friend to give us a lift; a Burmese guy driving a truck full of corn seed going our way. We happily hopped in, looking forward to being back in town an hour later to have a hard earned Myanmar beer… Unfortunately our timid driver must have thought the twisting roads would scare the poor white folk, and he drove at 20 kilometers per hour for the entire 60 km journey – so the quick one-hour trip took more than 3 hours. We definitely earned those few beers when we finally arrived home.

The next day we squeezed into a pick-up truck with 30 or so locals, with cramped bodies and fresh produce piled high above the roof, and for $1.50 we caught a lift back to Mandalay for our final 2 days in the country. There’s not much on offer in sweltering hot Mandalay, but we did all the highlights – checked out the Mandalay Palace, took road-trips to Sagaing and the U Bein Bridge, ate too much food at a $3 Shan-food buffet, and watched The Moustache Brothers show: a comedic stand-up routine with traditional Burmese dancing, which gives foreigners an insight into what most locals are too scared to tell you themselves – that the government in Myanmar spies on its people and arrests them if they are caught bad-mouthing or questioning the government. One of the brothers in the show has served 7 years in prison for performing their controversial show – but that’s not stopping them. Lonely Planet had recommended this show, and I’m glad we went – it’s important to support the people who aren’t afraid to suppress their feelings and admit the truth about life for the locals.

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At last it was time to leave this wonderful country, so before our taxi to the airport we hit a huge local tea shop and ordered up big: platefulls of samosas, noodle salads, naan bread with beans, tea leaf salad, fried pastry snacks to dip in our sweet milky teas… The locals around us watched incredulously as these two white tourists tucked in with gutso devouring the local food, hands and all… A lot of tourists seem too scared to try the local food for fear of falling sick but I’m pretty sure after all our travels Brett & I have iron guts so we didn’t have a problem. And our huge buffet of food came to a grand total of $1 each. Damn this country is cheap.

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But big changes are coming to Burma (I really should call it Myanmar, that is the country’s name now) – construction is happening on every corner of every town and city, as word is getting out that Burma is now open to visitors (until recently sanctions had been imposed, to prevent outside countries from doing dealings with Burma and in turn providing the government with more money to continue oppressing the nation. The fearless Aung San Suu Kyi believes if the government runs out of money, they will be forced out of power); and people are realizing how special this country is. I was expecting to find barely any tourists on our visit, but there were endless package tour groups trawling all the major tourist spots.

And while most locals are happy to have tourists come and visit their country, these package tourists who pay a lump sum to a travel agent in their own country and sit in flash hotels and restaurants run by the Government aren’t helping the people at all.

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If anyone reading this is planning a trip to Burma, please please PLEASE take this one piece of advice: skip the package tour, and travel independently. The local people in local guesthouses and restaurants serving your meals with a smile need your patronage much more than the government or that travel agency in your home country does. Package tours just provide more money to the government, who continue to make life hell for these kind people.

Aung San Suu Kyi's home in Yangon, where she was held under house-arrest for almost 20 years by her own government

Aung San Suu Kyi’s home in Yangon, where she was held under house-arrest for almost 20 years by her own government

Even the most cautious independent travelers who refuse to patronage Government-run hotels or restaurants can’t visit Burma without the government getting a kickback – your visa into the country, and entry fees into the major sites all over the country go straight into the government’s pocket. It’s a catch 22: you want to come and visit and help the locals to make money after the government has taken all the food they have farmed, and stripped them of their own land – but simply by stepping foot in the country, you are funding the government to continue their oppression. But despite this, all the locals I met were happy to have us in their country, and wanted us to go home and tell people all about Burma.

It’s a wonderful country, on the brink of breaking free from its shackles; so it was lovely to visit during this pivotal point in Burma’s history. I really hope those opposing the government can achieve the impossible and get this country running how it should be, and I also hope that increased tourism to the country doesn’t change the happy smiles and optimistic nature of the people. It’s nice to visit a country as a white person and be seen as a friend, and not just a walking cash machine.

The one thing Burma WILL try to make you buy... Bloody sand paintings! (I fell for his kind smile & bought some)

The one thing Burma WILL try to make you buy… Bloody sand paintings! (I fell for his kind smile & bought some)

Thanks for the memories Burma!

- Belle

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The salads of Burma

I know what you’re thinking.

A post about salads, Belle? I didn’t allow myself to get distracted from the work I so love doing (haha, yeah right) just to read about some dumb salads. But give me a minute – because salads in Burma are totally different to what “salad” means to us in the West.

In fact, forget everything you know about salads. Take that picture of a boring iceberg lettuce, chopped tomato and onion salad and toss it aside. Because in Burma, anything & everything is called a “salad” and knowing that you guys expect me to try all these amazing foods FOR YOU (I swear I only eat myself stupid for you guys, it’s all for you… haha) I made it my personal mission in Burma to try every “salad” at least once. So without further ado… May I present a photo-documented post of my Tour de Salad, in Burma this month.

Starting with Burma’s signature salad, the fermented tea leaf salad.

Burma's finest (and also the meal that got me to book my flight over here) - a salad made from fermented tea leaves, peanuts, onion, tomato, chili and beans. AHHHHMAZING!

Burma’s finest (and also the meal that got me to book my flight over here) – a salad made from fermented tea leaves, peanuts, onion, tomato, chili and beans. AHHHHMAZING!

And my second favourite… the modest sounding, but mind-blowing tomato salad

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Oh why bother with the commentary, you guys are just here for the food photos aren’t you? Here ya go…

Lemon salad, made from zesty lemon rind, onion, cabbage, peanuts and more deliciousness...

Lemon salad, made from zesty lemon rind, onion, cabbage, peanuts and more deliciousness…

My personal favourite, the samosa salad. Saw this on the street in Pyin oo Lwin & just ordered it, and had my mind blown - chopped samosa, beans, onion, plenty of chill and nuts. Ahhhmazing!

My personal favourite, the samosa salad. Saw this on the street in Pyin oo Lwin & just ordered it, and had my mind blown – chopped samosa, beans, onion, plenty of chill and nuts. Ahhhmazing!

Modest looking potato salad, tastes amazing! It's the peanuts that really make it exceptional

Modest looking potato salad, tastes amazing! It’s the peanuts that really make it exceptional

Eggplant salad

Eggplant salad

Ginger salad

Ginger salad

Avocado salad

Avocado salad

Chicken salad

Chicken salad

Carrot salad

Carrot salad

Radish salad

Radish salad

Corn salad - which was just corn grilled on the cob over a flame, the cut off and mixed with veggies. But still damn tasty!

Corn salad – which was just corn grilled on the cob over a flame, the cut off and mixed with veggies. But still damn tasty!

What would a salad post be, without fruit salad? Mmmm

What would a salad post be, without fruit salad? Mmmm

And finally, a special mention for the “Shan noodle salad” – which is pretty much just Shan noodle soup, with slightly less liquid… But like i said, they call anything & everything a salad over here.

Shan noodle "salad"

Shan noodle “salad”

Sure was fun researching this blog post for you guys! I hope you enjoy the photos as much as I enjoyed eating them all… Get over there and try them for yourself. Each & every one of these salads were delicious!

- Belle